At some point in our lives we have probably uttered the words “living the dream” with a slight hint of sarcasm when asked as to how we are doing or the progress of our days. I’m a big fan of sarcasm in general, but when applied to positive thinking, this sadly devalues the currency of dreams somewhat.
If you are living the dream, what do you dream about?
I wouldn’t say I’m living the dream but I am enjoying life. I still have dreams and goals and I don’t think that will ever disappear. The day your dream dies – well that’s a hard day to handle, but you will find new dreams – I’ve been there. Let me tell you a story.
The boy who drew cars.
As a kid I was transfixed with cars (well I still am) and with an ability to put pen to paper, not perfectly but with some capability I dreamt of becoming a car designer. Sadly this never worked out – my enthusiasm trumped my talent and a series of guesses by careers advisers led me down the path of engineering rather than drawing.
The show is far from over
It took me quite a few years to come to terms with the fact this dream had gone. I worked at Halfords fitting stereos and selling alloy wheels for 6 years, stuck in a job and life located somewhere between happiness and depression.
No-one dreams of Comfortable slippers
Halfords was a comfortable slippers job for me, I could have done it forever, but aside from the fact I was paid a pittance and I didn’t like the company ethos i needed to get out. The thing about comfy slippers, you can’t run in them – and my life needed a change of energy at that time.
Chasing the dream
I was fortunate and pretty much landed my dream job, but I applied for some real rubbish stuff previously – like selling bathrooms – that would have been a terrible move for me.
The phrase chasing the dream is great on face value, until you break it down. To chase implies you might not catch the dream in fact the dream is trying to get away from you.
Chase implies a burst of energy that is probably not sustainable, and after the chase you are knackered and further away from where you were when you started – and maybe not in the right direction.
Treat yourself to positive terminology, it’ll make those dreams much more attainable.
Follow your dreams
For those with a longer term outlook I prefer the phrase follow your dreams. You won’t necessarily catch them, or indeed overtake, but I think that’s healthy. To follow them you will travel in their footsteps, maybe not tomorrow, or even next year but you are on the same path.
The route to happiness?
To follow someone (or a dream) would imply there is a specific direction out route being taken. This sounds far more organised, more sustainable and easier to live with than to chase a dream, don’t you think?
Lets go back to the start
So let’s just say you dream of winning the lottery and it comes true. Overnight you are rich beyond your imagination. Are you living the dream as you have a huge house with a swimming pool and a thousand cars on the drive? Or are you living and still dreaming?
Don’t stop believing…
I’d say the dreams should never stop. Even with your new found millionaire lifestyle you could turn to philanthropy, and look to make a difference in the lives of others around you, look to better yourself through further education (traditional or adhoc self learning) or still have the goal of finding the car you can’t find for sale anywhere, regardless of your bank balance.
Money may not make you happy
I’ve not set my goal on winning the lottery (it would be nice) but it is something I have little control over, and presuming I have bought a ticket it relies entirely on luck.
Dreams can be controlled far more than winning the lottery, and you have the potential to change your journey every hour of every day and improve your odds. Unlike the aforementioned fictional lottery jackpot, where each week it is a new start.
With your dreams you could be working hard every month and banking one of the ‘winning six numbers’, so that the next month you are only 5 away, then 4 etc from winning your dream.
Keep dreaming, stay positive, believe you can do it and one day you will. If things don’t go completely according to plan, well there’s always 5 numbers and the bonus ball…